The Hope Gap: Why Motivational Tactics Aren't Working

May I be candid with you? For the past five years, we are all navigating new territories and terrains. Most likely, your strategic plan did not forecast even half of the challenges you've navigated these past five years.

Almost halfway through 2025, the chaos and uncertainty continue…and they are taking a toll. On you, the people you lead…and the people they love and want to provide for.

You know the truth of Bob Dylan's now 60-year-old song, The Times They Are A-Changin'.

Something is different. You know it, but you might not be able to put your finger on it or label it. It seems that people are now resistant to "tricks of the trade" that you could once rely on to 'motivate the troops' and get people excited and engaged.

What's Changed?

Earlier this year, the Gallup Organization named it. They called it The Hope Gap. Their research revealed what many have felt but few have articulated: What followers want most from their leaders isn't motivation, inspiration, or even purpose—it's hope.

Maybe this helps explain what's happening in your organization…with your team….the people entrusted to your care.

When hope is depleted, traditional motivation tactics don't just fail—they often make things worse.

The Hope Gap Is Real

The numbers are striking:

• 64% of workers want leaders who instill in them a sense of hope (Gallup).

• Employees with the highest levels of hope are 74% less likely to suffer from burnout (meQ).

• Leaders who inspire hope get 68% MORE engagement.

But here's the critical insight that most leaders miss: When hope is depleted, your well-intentioned efforts to motivate may actually be widening the gap rather than closing it.

Why Your Current Approach Might Be Widening the Gap

A leader noticed engagement dropping across the organization. His response? Gather the troops and share an uplifting message about overcoming challenges in the past, assuring them that we will get through this storm together. Everybody left with a logoed Yeti tumbler.

Many employees left bewildered, confused, and deflated. Why?

Because when people are experiencing hope depletion, motivational approaches feel disconnected from their reality. The gap between leadership's enthusiasm and employees' lived experience becomes evidence that leaders don't understand what's really happening.

Hope Science: What Actually Works

Before diving into specific approaches, we need to understand what hope actually is—not as a vague feeling, but as a cognitive-motivational system studied extensively by psychologist C.R. Snyder and others.

Hope consists of three essential elements:

1. Achievable Goals Not distant "BHAGs" (Big Hairy Audacious Goals) that feel disconnected from daily reality, but meaningful objectives that balance challenge with attainability.

When hope is depleted, people need proximal goals—achievements they can reach this week, this month. They need to experience progress before they can envision grand futures.

2. Pathways Thinking The belief that multiple routes exist to reach those goals. When one approach fails, alternatives are available.

Hope-depleted individuals often exhibit "tunnel vision"—seeing only one way forward (that isn't working) rather than multiple possibilities.

3. Agency The belief that your actions matter—that you can affect outcomes through your efforts. And importantly, the willingness to take those actions.

This is where traditional motivation most often fails: it attempts to inspire action without rebuilding the belief that those actions will make a difference.

Common Hope-Depleting Leadership Approaches

When leaders don't understand these principles, well-intentioned efforts often backfire:

• Raising the stakes ("This quarter is make-or-break!") when people need achievable wins.

• Pushing harder ("Just give 110%!") when pathways, not effort, are the issue.

• More inspirational talks when what's needed is evidence that action leads to results.

• Contests and rewards that further overwhelm already stretched resources.

• New initiatives that signal prior efforts (and investments) didn't matter.

A Hope-Building Alternative

Consider instead how hope science might reshape leadership approaches:

• Instead of a new ambitious vision: Break down large goals into visible weekly progress markers. Celebrate these small wins publicly.

• Instead of more motivational speeches: Create structured time for teams to identify multiple approaches to current challenges. Help them expand their pathways thinking.

• Instead of higher targets: Provide concrete evidence of how specific team actions have directly influenced outcomes. Build the belief that effort connects to results.

• Instead of another engagement initiative: Address the specific patterns of hope depletion present in your organization.

Understanding Before Intervening

And that brings me to a crucial point:

Hope building must begin with a proper diagnosis, not just treating symptoms.

Effective leaders must identify the reasons behind hope depletion before trying to restore it, just as responsible physicians diagnose conditions before prescribing medication.

Different team members experience hope depletion differently. Some have lost faith that their efforts matter. Others see no alternative pathways forward. Still others can't connect daily work to meaningful outcomes.

Applying the wrong solution to the wrong pattern of depletion doesn't just waste resources—it can actively damage trust.

Navigate This New Territory With Confidence

What if you could get a map of this new territory that would inform your strategy and approach? You can.

We've developed The Hope Compass, an assessment for teams and individuals to identify current hope depletion and provide insights and strategies to foster hope.

For leaders with teams of 7 or more: I invite you and your team to complete The Hope Compass. This practical tool requires just 15 minutes per person and reveals the specific hope depletion patterns affecting your team. Simply have team members complete the assessment within one week. When we reach 75% participation, we'll create a report to share findings and tailored hope-building strategies for your team.

We're looking for 5-7 leaders and teams to complete The Hope Compass this month. Do YOU want to be one of those?

Send me a DM or complete this short survey to express your interest.

In a world where hope is the top desire of followers, leaders who can cultivate hope—not just motivation—will foster genuinely engaged teams.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Embracing Hope: A Defiant Stand Against Cynicism (Part 2)

If embracing hope is an act of defiance, then what exactly are you defying?

In a world increasingly characterized by doubt and despair, choosing hope challenges the dominant narratives of our time. Hope stands in stark contrast to the increasing cynicism that pervades our society—a cynicism that has been systematically reinforced, almost as if it were our best defense against disappointment.

The Weaponization of Cynicism

• Information Overload: We're inundated with news of disaster and disappointment, fostering helplessness and hyper-vigilance.

• The "Realism" Trap: We're told that to "prepare for the worst" is to be wise, viewing hope as naive and urging a retreat from ambition and aspiration.

• Burnout and Emotional Fatigue: Years of collective adversity have shifted many from battle-ready to battle-weary, making cynicism seem like a natural refuge.

Despite the sway of these forces, hope becomes a bold resistance, a neurological uprising against the inertia of despair.

Hope as a Radical Act of Defiance

Choosing hope isn't about ignoring reality—it's about navigating it with resilience and imagination. It's about engaging in:

Hope as Resistance: Your Neurological Revolt

Science shows that choosing hopeful narratives:

• Rewires the brain’s threat detection system, empowering the prefrontal cortex over the amygdala.

• Creates "stress inoculation"—mental PPE that strengthens you in times of crisis.

• Fuels solution-finding neuroplasticity, counteracting the effects of burnout on the brain.

Just as Shakespeare wrote "Hamlet" amidst the plague, warrior hope confronts reality head-on while scripting new possibilities.

The Gratitude Armory

Your greatest ally in this battle against cynicism and despair? Appreciation activates the brain’s seek-and-savor system (dopamine pathways), filtering your environment for evidence against despair.

Here are two practices to enhance your warrior stance:

1️⃣ The Evidence Collection

• Chronicle daily proof that hope is warranted: projects advancing, problems being solved, and positives often overshadowed by negativity.

• Keep a "Hope Evidence Log" to revisit when cynicism strikes.

• Invite others to join you in sharing the Evidence Log so it becomes a shared practice.

2️⃣ The "And Yet" Practice

• Acknowledge challenges, then pivot: "Yes, this is tough. And yet...a) Here's the good I can still find, or b) Here's a small action I/we will take to navigate our way forward rather than giving up."

• This reframing empowers you to engage actively with possibilities instead of passively accepting circumstances.

Embracing hope isn't indulging in Pollyanna positivism. It's transformational leadership, grounded in optimism and actionable insight.

Stay hopeful, stay defiant, and continue transcending limits. You embracing HOPE will inspire someone else to embrace it too.

HOPE IS A WARRIOR EMOTION for those who refuse to believe our best days are somewhere in the past.

Let us dare to hope fiercely, for in that defiance lies the seed of true transformation.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Hope as the Warrior Emotion: Part 1

Have you ever been accused of “being too hopeful” —as if being hopeful is naive or foolish?

In our cynical world, hope is often dismissed as passive wishful thinking or blind optimism. We've been taught that "hope is not a strategy" and that "realistic" people prepare for the worst while hoping for the best (with emphasis on the preparing, not the hoping).

But what if we've fundamentally misunderstood hope?

Musician Nick Cave offers a perspective that stopped me in my tracks:

Unlike cynicism, hopefulness is hard-earned, makes demands upon us, and can often feel like the most indefensible and lonely place on Earth. Hopefulness is not a neutral position. It is adversarial. It is the warrior emotion that can lay waste to cynicism.

This framing transforms everything. Hope isn't gentle surrender—it's fierce resistance.

True hope doesn't ignore problems or challenges. Instead, it acknowledges them fully while refusing to grant them permanence or ultimate authority. It's the deliberate choice to see beyond current circumstances without denying their reality.

Look around your workplace – cynicism has become the default position in many organizations. And often with good reason: broken promises, failed initiatives, superficial positivity that ignores real problems.

Yet amid legitimate disappointments, warrior hope stands in stark contrast from toxic positivity. It doesn't deny what's broken; it simply refuses to believe that brokenness gets the final word. It's the courage to say "nevertheless" when all evidence points to impossibility.

During your darkest moments—whether personal crisis, organizational challenge, or societal turmoil—hope becomes an act of defiance. It's your refusal to let cynicism have the final word.

This warrior perspective helps explain why gratitude and hope work so powerfully together. Gratitude isn't just warm appreciation; it's evidence-gathering that builds your case against despair. Each moment of gratitude becomes ammunition in hope's arsenal.

Personal Invitation + Application

What happens when you reframe hope this way in your own life?

Where might you need to adopt this warrior stance rather than surrendering to the "realistic" voice of cynicism?

Maybe next week, I'll upack specific practices for developing this adversarial hope and the surprising science behind why it works.

Until then, I'd love to hear: Where have you witnessed or practiced this warrior form of hope?

Here's me riffing on Hope as the Warrior Emotion on a Hope Daily Pulse. I'm creating new shorts every day for 21 days. Please watch for these here on LinkedIn.

Here's where you can watch Nick Cave unpack "The Warrior Emotion" on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU... and for HOPE!

What Happened To Gratitude? A Public Service Announcement

🚨 We interrupt our usual programming to bring you this Public Service Announcement. 🚨

What Happened to Gratitude? Yes, I've been asked that question. I made it clear in one email 🤭.

There's a leadership lesson right here...Don't miss it! Have you ever assumed that because YOU said (or wrote) something ONCE...that everybody on your team got the message? I really did mention this in ONE email. Now, I'm dedicated this edition of the IGFY Newsletter to the topic.

For everyone who's been wondering where gratitude fits in with all this talk about HOPE—breathe easy. My commitment to gratitude hasn't wavered one bit! If anything, it's stronger.

You see, we've always intertwined hope with gratitude in our work. At every Gratitude Encounter, you’ll hear me say, "HOPE grows IN Gratitude." That’s not just a catchy phrase—it's a principle that's deeply rooted in Hope Science.

Speaking of missing things...did you know that Hope Science is a thing? It's been around since the 80's.

Enter Hope Science

Here are the core tenets of C.R. Snyder's Hope Theory:

1. Goals: Snyder and his colleagues began with the assumption that human actions are goal-directed. Goals should be meaningful, whether short- or long-term, to inspire your imagination and motivate action. Goals don't always have to be Big Hairy and Audacious (BHAGs); overly ambitious goals can feel unreachable and unattainable. In Hope Theory, hope flourishes when you believe a goal is attainable. Breaking goals into actionable steps can help you find clarity in chaos.

2. Pathways Thinking: It's great to have goals. To have hope, you must also believe you (and your teammates) are capable of finding or creating workable routes to those goals. High-hope people and leaders believe there are multiple ways to "get there". And, if we encounter obstacles (which YOU will), you are capable of finding an alternate path. Rerouting is what your GPS calls it.

3. Agency Thinking: This is absolutely essential to the science of hope. Believing in your ability to act and navigate multiple pathways to achieve your goal and reach your destination. In other words -- WHAT YOU DO MATTERS! You can affect your situation.

Hope is not just a feeling...it's a powerful resource. Actually, it's a leadership skill. One you need to be mastering now.

Why Hope Matters [More] Now

As 2025 unfolded—or perhaps unraveled is the better word—you might be feeling the weight of uncertainty more than ever.

For me, it began with an email I received on January 4 from Andre Haddad, CEO of Turo following the horrific events in New Orleans and Las Vegas that coincidentally involved cars rented from Turo.

His words lodged in my heart: (I'm quoting from an email received on January 4).

2025 is off to an awful start. While I mourn today, I also remain committed to pioneering and sustaining a strong, secure, trustworthy marketplace for tomorrow.

Maybe you felt that sentiment resonate deeply.

By the end of February, I noticed people everywhere losing hope, teetering on the brink of despair. Maybe you've noticed it, or even felt it yourself. The Gallup Organization confirmed what many of us were sensing: their February 11 Global Leadership Report revealed that HOPE is what followers want most from their leaders now, with 56% of responses linking directly to hope.

This is where Hope Science becomes relevant, even vital, for you as a leader.

You don't just survive challenges—you innovate your way through them.

Think about it: When your team believes their goals are attainable, when they understand there are multiple ways to succeed (like that GPS that calmly announces "rerouting" when you hit an obstacle), and when they genuinely believe their actions make a difference—that's when transformation happens. That's when innovation thrives. That's when resilience becomes not just a buzzword, but a lived experience.

This isn't just about feeling better—it's about leading better.

In a world where uncertainty seems to be the only certainty, understanding and applying Hope Science might be the most practical leadership strategy you can employ.

Your Leadership Invitation

So, leaders, let me ask you:

How is hope trending on your team right now?

If it's low, recognize that this is a leadership imperative. Hope isn't a "nice-to-have"; it's essential for navigating these turbulent times.

If you need help boosting hope in your leadership or within your team, reach out. Here are a few ways I can assist:

• Consultation: I'll work with you and your team to assess hope levels and develop hope-building strategies tailored to your situation.

• Customized Journeys: Together, we'll create a personalized hope and gratitude journey for your leaders or team members.

• Keynotes & Workshops: I offer engaging keynotes, interactive workshops, and can facilitate off-site events to inspire and equip your team.

Remember, as Napoleon Bonaparte said:

"A leader is a dealer in hope."

And as Norman Cousins wisely noted:

"The capacity for hope is the most significant fact of life. It provides human beings with a sense of destination and the energy to get started."

Let's ensure you're leading with hope—it's the energy needed to get started and the momentum to keep moving forward.

Ready to cultivate hope together?

Send me a message in my LinkedIn! Let's navigate this journey—Hope-Focused and Gratitude-Fueled—together.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Special Edition: Hope Is a Strategy—The Science of Leading with Purpose

Have you ever dismissed hope as mere wishful thinking? Or worse—declared “Hope is not a strategy!” only to watch your team’s energy deflate?

If so, this edition of the IGFY Newsletter is for you.

After reading this, I hope you’ll never say anything as asinine as “Hope is not a strategy!” again. (Yes, I said it.)

The Science of Hope: What Leaders Need to Know

Gallup’s latest research reveals that hope is what people most want—and need—from their leaders today. Yet many dismiss it as “soft” or “unquantifiable.”

Here’s the truth: Hope is a science, studied for over 40 years. And it’s not just about optimism—it’s a measurable skill that fuels creativity, productivity, and even profitability.

C.R. Snyder’s Hope Theory: The 3 Cornerstones

The late psychologist’s research shows genuine hope isn’t passive. It’s built on three pillars:

1. Goals: Clear, meaningful targets that inspire direction.

2. Pathways: The ability to identify multiple routes to overcome obstacles.

3. Agency: The belief that your actions matter and can create change.

Leaders who foster these three elements don’t just inspire—they unlock their team’s potential to innovate, adapt, and thrive. 🤷🏼♂️ Skills that are highly prized now!

Why Hope Matters in Business

In a world often focused on tangible metrics and outcomes, hope offers an invaluable yet often overlooked dimension of leadership. By understanding and harnessing the power of hope, you can unlock transformative benefits that don't just uplift individuals but drive entire organizations forward. Here’s why hope is essential for business success:

• Enhanced Performance: Studies have shown that individuals with higher hope levels tend to perform better in their roles. They are more proactive, set meaningful goals, and are committed to achieving them.

• Resilience in Teams: Hope fosters a resilient mindset. Teams grounded in hope are better equipped to handle setbacks, view challenges as opportunities, and maintain momentum toward collective goals.

• Creative Problem-Solving: Hopeful individuals are skilled at envisioning multiple pathways to success, which encourages innovation and adaptability within organizations.

• Increased Engagement and Morale: Cultivating hope leads to higher employee engagement, improving morale and reducing turnover rates. Employees feel more connected to their work and the organization's mission.

Yet most workplaces focus only on what’s easily measured—productivity, KPIs, profits. What if nurturing hope is the missing link to sustainable success?

How to Lead with Hope

1. Reframe “Hope” as a Strategy: Replace vague optimism with Snyder’s science—set clear goals, map pathways, and empower agency.

2. Share Hope Stories: Highlight team members who turned challenges into opportunities through action. (Join our first Hope Stories Lives this Friday to see this in action.)

3. Cultivate Hope Daily: Small, consistent practices build momentum.

Your Invitation: Grow Hope with Us

If you’re ready to turn hope into a leadership superpower, join our next cohort:

Cultivating Hope: A 21-Day Transformative Journey Starts Monday, May 12 | Join Here

This isn’t a “think positive” program. It’s a science-backed experience to help you and your team:

• Reignite purpose in uncertain times

• Build actionable pathways through challenges

• Strengthen agency to drive meaningful progress

Final Thought

Hope isn’t the absence of struggle—it’s the belief that struggle can lead to growth. As leaders, you don’t just need hope. You have a responsibility to model it.

Stop dismissing hope; start leveraging it.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Cultivating Gratitude: Nurturing the Seeds of Appreciation for a Flourishing Life

Ever notice how master gardeners seem to have a "green thumb" while others struggle to keep a cactus alive?

The difference isn't luck—it's cultivation. The same principle applies to gratitude. While some people appear naturally grateful, the truth is they've learned to cultivate appreciation with the same dedication a gardener tends to their prize-winning roses.

The Essence of Cultivating Gratitude

Cultivating gratitude is about more than merely acknowledging the good things—it's about actively nurturing a mindset of appreciation. When you cultivate gratitude, you're preparing fertile ground for growth, positivity, and lasting fulfillment.

Think about a gardener who carefully tends to their crops: they plant with intention, water regularly, weed diligently, and celebrate each sprout. Similarly, gratitude requires regular attention and conscious effort to yield bountiful results.

Unpacking the Move

Just as every thriving garden requires thoughtful planning and consistent care, your gratitude practice needs deliberate attention to flourish. Let's explore the essential elements of building your gratitude garden—a space where appreciation can take root, grow strong, and ultimately bear the fruit of a more fulfilling life.

Here are some tips to starting your Gratitude Garden:

• Prepare the Soil: Begin by setting your intention to nurture gratitude. This is your commitment to focus on appreciation as a cornerstone of your daily life.

• Plant the Seeds: Identify specific areas or experiences where gratitude can take root. Start with acknowledging small victories, personal relationships, or the beauty around you.

• Cultivate with Care: Develop practices that regularly "water" your gratitude. This could involve daily reflection, gratitude journaling, or sharing appreciation with others.

• Tend the Weeds: Notice and gently remove negative thoughts or grievances that can crowd out your appreciation. Recognizing these "weeds" is crucial to creating space for gratitude to flourish.

• Celebrate the Harvest: Take time to savor the moments when gratitude blossoms into joy and contentment. Celebrate the positive changes and growth in your life as a result of your efforts.

Where and When to Apply

In the flow of life, there are moments when gratitude can infuse powerful energy into every corner of your day, whether you're navigating personal challenges, enhancing team dynamics, or driving your personal growth journey.

• In Daily Life: Integrate gratitude practices into everyday routines, like mindful moments during meals, commutes, or before bedtime.

• During Transitions: Use gratitude to ground yourself when navigating changes, seeing them as opportunities for growth.

• In Relationships: Cultivate gratitude by acknowledging and expressing appreciation to those around you, strengthening bonds and enhancing joy.

How to Practice This Move

Cultivating a habit of gratitude involves intentional actions that integrate thankfulness into your daily routine, transforming it into a dynamic force that inspires continuous personal and communal growth.

• Daily Reflection: Dedicate a few minutes each day to contemplate what you're grateful for and why—and let this awareness guide your actions.

• Share Your Gratitude: Make it a habit to express your appreciation to others. A simple message of thanks can have a profound impact.

• Create a Gratitude Ritual: Establish a simple practice, like a gratitude jar where you drop notes about things you're thankful for, and watch it fill up over time.

Invitation to Action

Just as gardens thrive with care and patience, your life will flourish when you invest in cultivating gratitude. By nurturing appreciation, you're not only enhancing your own experience but also enriching the lives of those around you.

Are you ready to tend to your own garden of gratitude? Begin today—plant a seed of appreciation, water it with attention, and watch as it brings beauty and abundance into your life.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU.

Harnessing Gratitude: Channeling Positive Energy for Transformative Impact

Have you ever stopped to marvel at the sheer power and beauty of Niagara Falls? Imagine millions of gallons of water roaring over the edge every minute, creating more than just a breathtaking spectacle—they generate enormous amounts of energy. This energy, when skillfully harnessed, powers homes, cities, and even industries.

But what if I told you there's another kind of energy you can harness that's just as transformative?

It's the energy of gratitude. And when you learn to channel gratitude, much like the engineers who tap into the power of the falls, you can create boundless positive energy that lights up your life—and the lives of those around you.

The Essence of Harnessing Gratitude

Harnessing gratitude involves more than just experiencing it passively; it requires intentional action to direct this powerful emotion.

When you consciously harness gratitude, you're transforming it into meaningful energy—fuel for growth, connection, and resilience.

Think about Niagara Falls. The water is constantly flowing, powerful yet untapped until strategically directed through turbines, converting potential energy into electricity. Similarly, gratitude is ever-present, flowing through your life. Yet, without harnessing it, it remains an underutilized resource.

Unpacking the Move

FOR INDIVIDUALS:

• Create Channels: Identify personal pathways through which gratitude can flow into your daily life. These might include morning journaling, evening reflection, or mindful moments during your commute that help direct your attention to the positives.

• Install Turbines: Equip yourself with techniques that convert gratitude into action. Start with simple practices like sending one appreciation message daily or using gratitude as your first response to challenges.

• Generate Energy: Notice how your intentional gratitude practice enhances your well-being, improves your relationships, and builds your personal resilience.

FOR TEAMS:

• Create Channels: Establish regular touchpoints for gratitude to flow within your team. This could include starting meetings with appreciation rounds, creating a digital "kudos" channel, or implementing peer recognition programs.

• Install Turbines: Develop team practices that transform appreciation into collaborative energy. Consider gratitude-focused retrospectives, celebration walls, or appreciation challenges that encourage team members to acknowledge each other's contributions.

• Generate Energy: Watch how channeled gratitude strengthens team bonds, improves communication, boosts morale, and creates a more positive and productive work environment.

Just as multiple turbines in a dam create more power, combining individual and team practices multiplies the positive impact of harnessing gratitude. When you align personal and collective gratitude practices, you create a sustainable source of positive energy that can transform both individual experiences and team dynamics.

Where and When to Apply

In the flow of life, there are moments when gratitude can infuse powerful energy into every corner of your day, whether you're navigating personal challenges, enhancing team dynamics, or driving your personal growth journey.

• During Crisis: When challenges seem overwhelming, focus on gratitude to generate the energy needed for navigating turbulent times.

• In Team Settings: Encourage a culture of appreciation that channels positivity and collaboration, much like a river feeding into a cooperative reservoir.

• Personal Growth: Allow gratitude to be the driving force behind your self-improvement efforts, much like renewable energy sustaining long-term growth.

How to Practice this Move

Cultivating a habit of gratitude involves intentional actions that integrate thankfulness into your daily routine, transforming it into a dynamic force that inspires continuous personal and communal growth.

• Daily Reflection: Set aside time each day to note the aspects of your life you’re grateful for, and recognize their potential to inspire action.

• Gratitude in Motion: Translate gratefulness into acts of kindness, support, and innovation.

• Community Connection: Share experiences of gratitude to create a supportive network, amplifying the collective energy in teams or groups.

Just as engineers have harnessed the power of Niagara Falls to create lasting energy, you too can channel gratitude's boundless power. By deliberately focusing on and directing your thankfulness, you'll not only transform your own experience but also illuminate the path for others.

Invitation to Action:

I challenge you to consider: How are you currently harnessing gratitude in your life? What steps can you take today to channel this potent force into energy that fuels positive change?

Let's tap into gratitude's potential together and see how brightly you can shine.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Special Edition + Invitation: Cultivating Hope Starts Monday

What if hope isn’t lost—it’s just waiting to be rekindled beneath the weight of your daily challenges?

In a world that feels increasingly overwhelming, even the most successful among us can feel a sense of disconnection or burnout.

If you or your team are experiencing:

• Disconnection: Feeling emotionally isolated despite professional accomplishments.

• Despair: Navigating through chaos and confusion, unsure of what's next.

• Burnout or Exhaustion: Mental and emotional fatigue from the complexities of our global landscape.

• Futility: Questioning whether your efforts are making a meaningful difference.

Then this invitation is especially for you.

Cultivating Hope: A 21-Day Transformative Journey. Starting Monday, April 21.

This isn't just another program— it's a gratitude-powered companion designed to help you gently reconnect with your inner resilience, find steadiness amidst the chaos, and rediscover purpose through simple, grounding practices.

What's more, this journey is guided by science-based practices to authentically grow hope.

Why Join This Journey?

• App-Assisted, Asynchronous Experience: Participate on your own schedule. Whether you're at home or traveling, engage with the journey from your phone, tablet, or computer.

• Daily Micro-Actions: Benefit and build hope in as little as 10-15 minutes a day with intentional, impactful practices.

• Resilience-Building Gratitude: Our Pause-Notice-Express framework helps rewire your brain to spot possibilities and nurture a mindset of abundance.

• Supportive Community: Connect with like-minded professionals who understand your journey. Share wins, insights, and build meaningful connections.

• Momentum-Maintaining Experience: With gamified elements and meaningful milestones, growth becomes an exploration, not a chore.

What You'll Experience Over These 21 Days:

• Renewed Sense of Agency: Regain control and confidence amid uncertainty.

• Practical Hope-Building Habits: Develop daily practices that empower you to face challenges with optimism.

• Enhanced Resilience: Build the strength to navigate ongoing complexities with grace.

• A Community of Support: You're not alone—grow alongside others who are on the same path.

• Ability to Notice Possibilities: Train your mind to see opportunities where you once saw obstacles.

Gratitude experienced is better than gratitude explained, and hope grows stronger when shared.

Your Investment: Pay What You Can

We believe that everyone deserves access to hope-building tools, especially in challenging times. That's why we're offering this journey as Pay What You Can. We don't want resources to be a barrier for people joining. Likewise, we welcome those able to invest more, as your generosity helps make this experience accessible to those currently struggling.

Enroll 25 or more team members to receive a Facilitation Guide for hosting your own weekly enrichment sessions.

Bring 50+ people from your company, and we'll host exclusive weekly enrichment sessions specifically for your group.

Ready to Rediscover Hope?

Here's where you go to secure your spot.

Imagine what could happen if, over the next 21 days, you (and your team) began to see challenges not as insurmountable obstacles but as opportunities to grow stronger, clearer, and more connected.

What if hope isn't just a fleeting emotion—but a practice you can cultivate and master?

Let's embark on this transformative journey together, embracing gratitude as the foundation for a more resilient and purposeful life.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Choosing Gratitude: The Daily Decision That Changes Everything

Guest Post by Christy Kern

Have you ever caught yourself in a spiral of complaints during your morning commute? The traffic is unbearable, your coffee spilled on your shirt, and your inbox is overflowing before you even reach your desk. We've all been there—locked in a pattern of noticing everything that's going wrong. In those moments, gratitude seems like the furthest thing from your mind.

But what if gratitude wasn't something that just happened to you when things are going well, but rather something you deliberately chose, regardless of circumstances?

Gratitude Move 3: Choosing Gratitude

Welcome to the third installment of Gratitude Moves™, our series exploring Strategic Ways to Activate Gratitude's Power. We began by exploring how to deploy gratitude as a strategic resource, followed by leaning into gratitude as a way to transform moments of withdrawal. Today, we dive into the transformative practice of Choosing Gratitude.

The concept of choosing gratitude truly crystallized for me during a particularly challenging day. I had just experienced a nightmare travel day where nothing went smoothly. When I finally arrived, the team I was working with seemed completely unprepared for our time together. Then, before we even got started, I was blindsided by some news about the client's previous experience that left me reeling and angry.

There are no better days to learn that gratitude is a choice. Not just a warm, fuzzy feeling that happens naturally. Nothing about this situation screamed, "I should be grateful"... and yet, I had a choice. I could sulk about the travel snafus, I could be annoyed with the client in the room, and I could be (justifiably) angry with the contracting agency for what they had done. But that is NOT how I wanted to show up in that moment or how I wanted to be as a person.

Gratitude is not an emotion that comes to us, but a choice we make regardless of our emotions. When we choose gratitude, we choose to see life through a lens that transforms not just our perception, but our reality.

Unpacking the Move

Choosing gratitude means making a conscious decision to focus on appreciation rather than defaulting to complaint or criticism. Unlike simply feeling grateful when good things happen, choosing gratitude is an active process—a deliberate redirection of your attention toward what's working, what's valuable, and what's possible.

This move differs from deploying gratitude in that it's less about sending gratitude on a specific mission and more about adopting gratitude as your default operating system. It's about training your mind to automatically search for things to appreciate rather than things to criticize.

The key elements of choosing gratitude include:

• Recognition that gratitude is always a choice, even when circumstances are difficult

• A deliberate commitment to find value in every situation

• The understanding that you can acknowledge problems while still choosing gratitude

• A willingness to develop new mental habits that prioritize appreciation

Where and When to Apply

Choosing gratitude is particularly powerful in these workplace scenarios:

• During team conflicts when positions are becoming entrenched

• When facing unexpected setbacks or failures

• In high-pressure environments where negativity easily spreads

• During performance reviews or feedback sessions

• When working with difficult colleagues or clients

• In times of organizational change or uncertainty

You know it's time to choose gratitude when you notice your team defaulting to blame, when conversations focus exclusively on problems rather than solutions, or when you feel yourself becoming cynical or disengaged.

How to Practice This Move

• Shift Your Mindset: Start by recognizing that gratitude is a choice, not just a reaction to favorable circumstances. This mental reframing is powerful.

• Start Small: Begin with acknowledging one positive aspect of a challenging situation, then gradually expand your practice.

• Create Decision Points: Identify specific moments in your day (receiving criticism, encountering obstacles) as opportunities to consciously choose gratitude.

• Use Gratitude Reframing: When facing challenges, ask "What might I be grateful for in this situation if I looked deeper?"

• Build a Gratitude Network: Surround yourself with colleagues who practice choosing gratitude and can remind you of this choice when you're struggling.

Choosing gratitude does not come naturally to most of us. It has taken me a lot of practice, and I still struggle sometimes. But like any skill, it gets stronger with consistent effort.

The most common pitfall is confusing choosing gratitude with toxic positivity.

Remember: choosing gratitude isn't about denying problems—it's about approaching them from a more resourceful state of mind.

Real-World Application

A marketing team was struggling with a client who kept changing project requirements. Team meetings had devolved into complaint sessions, and several team members were considering leaving the project.

The project manager decided to implement a simple practice: starting each client discussion by acknowledging something they appreciated about the client's engagement. Initially met with eye rolls, the practice gradually shifted the team's perspective. They began noting the client's passion, creativity, and willingness to be involved. These observations led to a more collaborative approach to managing changes.

Within weeks, the relationship transformed. Rather than dreading client calls, the team began seeing them as opportunities to refine their work. The client, feeling more appreciated, became more receptive to the team's process suggestions. What could have been a failed project became one of their most successful collaborations.

Invitation to Action

This week, I challenge you to consciously choose gratitude at least three times each day. Create a simple trigger—perhaps each time you check your phone, take a sip of water, or receive an email—to pause and choose gratitude in that moment.

Keep track of how this practice affects your mood, your interactions with colleagues, and your approach to challenges. What shifts do you notice in your perspective? How does it impact your decision-making?

I'd love to hear about your experience with choosing gratitude. Share your insights using #GratitudeMoves or send me a direct message. Your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear to begin their own gratitude practice.

CHOOSING GRATITUDE FOR YOU!

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MEET CHRISTY

Christy Kern is a skilled advisor and facilitator who helps teams have meaningful conversations to tap into their collective wisdom, especially in high-stakes situations.

Believing that we’re better together, she guides organizations to have better conversations, make clearer decisions, do their best work, and achieve stronger results. Learn more about Christy and her work with the On Purpose Project.

Leaning Into Gratitude: Embracing Positivity with Purpose

Remember the last time you were in a meeting and felt the urge to draw back, either physically stepping away or mentally retreating into judgment?

It's a natural reaction when faced with tension or disagreement. But imagine this: what if, instead of pulling away, you chose to lean into these moments with gratitude?

Welcome to "Leaning Into Gratitude," part of our "Gratitude Moves™" series: Strategic Ways to Activate Gratitude's Power. Leaning into Gratitude is about transforming moments of withdrawal into opportunities for connection and growth. It all starts with leaning in, both literally and metaphorically, and begins with the powerful act of pausing.

Viktor Frankl famously said,

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

This space between stimulus and response is where gratitude can flourish.

Unpacking the Move

Leaning into gratitude involves transcending the instinct to judge and withdraw, making a conscious choice to engage with appreciation instead. Whether you’re interacting one-on-one or in a group setting, this move opens up new pathways for understanding and connection.

In a One-on-One Context: In personal interactions, leaning into gratitude means that when you're tempted to pull back in judgment, you pause to actively listen and look for opportunities to appreciate the individual's contributions, qualities, or intentions. This might involve recognizing a colleague's effort, valuing a friend's perspective, or finding common ground in a disagreement. By focusing on the positive, you’re fostering trust and encouraging open communication.

In a Group Setting: When applied in group dynamics, leaning into gratitude allows teams to harmonize around shared values and strengths. Instead of retreating in moments of disagreement or tension, you invite the group to collectively pause and choose to acknowledge the positives each member brings. This practice nurtures an inclusive and collaborative environment where new ideas are celebrated, and challenges are faced together.

By applying this Gratitude Move, you’re not just shifting your own perspective—you’re inviting others to see through a lens of possibility and shared purpose, amplifying the positive impact across your network.

Where and When to Apply

Apply this move the next time someone does something that triggers you, and your initial response is to retreat. Consider this: pause in that space, lean into gratitude, and search for something positive about the person or situation. It’s within this deliberate choice that we find growth and freedom, making it a powerful tool for positive engagement.

How to Practice This Move

1. Pause Instead of Judging: When tension arises, take a moment to breathe, setting aside judgment.

2. Recognize the Trigger: Notice your instinct to lean away and use it as an invitation to pause.

3. Set a Gratitude Intention: Decide to find and acknowledge one positive aspect of the person or situation.

4. Invite Others: Encourage your team or conversation partner to join you in this gratitude practice.

5. Acknowledge Aloud: Identify and express appreciation for genuine positives, whether it’s someone’s effort, a lesson learned, or a new insight.

Invitation to Action

This week, identify a situation where your first instinct is to pull back. Choose to pause in the space between stimulus and response, and lean into gratitude instead.

Invite those involved to join you in seeing the positives that might be obscured by initial perceptions. Set reminders to help maintain your focus on gratitude throughout your interactions.

Notice the impact of this shift on your relationships and personal outlook. What new insights or opportunities arise?

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Deploying Gratitude: Sending it on a Strategic Mission

Remember the frustration, possibly even anger, you felt the last time a project stalled or when someone resigned at the most inconvenient moment? You’ve been there, right? When tensions run high, and it feels like you're facing one hurdle after another, what do you do? It's so easy to focus on the negative; it's how we're wired.

What might be different if you deployed gratitude to that situation?

Gratitude Move 1: Deploying Gratitude

Welcome to Gratitude Moves™ a series exploring Strategic Ways to Activate Gratitude's Power. We introduced the series last week and start today with Deploying Gratitude.

Maybe you've never thought of deploying gratitude. I hadn’t thought of gratitude as something to deploy until I joined Markku Wilenius, Finland's leading futurist on conversations about gratitude and the future of work. A couple of weeks later, Markku messaged me to share how deeply gratitude had continued resonating with him after our conversation.

His reflection inspired me, as it was the first time I thought of deploying gratitude.

When you deploy gratitude even to the challenges you are facing, you actually start to see some beauty in them. So you start to see the blessing where you formerly saw obstacles and troubles. And that leads to a certain lightness in our souls. And it also leads to creativity in solving any issues. - Dr. Markku Wilenius

WOW! Gratitude as a strategic resource you can deploy. 🤔 Deploying gratitude is more than gratitude as a platitude or even an attitude. It involves channeling your gratitude purposefully and assigning it to a meaningful mission.

Unpacking the Move

According to Miriam-Webster, "deploy" is "to move, spread out, or place in position for some purpose." Perhaps, like me, you've primarily thought of "deploy" as a military term. In the context of Gratitude Moves™, it's about sending gratitude on a mission with the specific aim of changing your perception of a situation, person, or team.

Why does this matter? Because deploying gratitude not only lightens the soul, as Markku shared, but also fosters creativity and innovation when confronting issues.

Where and When to Deploy Gratitude

Think about that one situation at work that's causing you stress right now. Maybe it's a difficult colleague, an impossible deadline, or an unexpected setback.

These moments—when you least feel like being grateful—are exactly when deploying gratitude can be most powerful!

By intentionally looking for things to appreciate, even in challenging circumstances, you begin to see opportunities where you once saw only obstacles.

Practical Ways to Deploy Gratitude Now

1. Identify the Challenge: Choose a situation, person, or team where stress is high.

2. Set a Gratitude Mission: Articulate what you hope gratitude will transform. Is it tension into teamwork? Doubt into trust?

3. Express Thoughtful Gratitude: Be specific—acknowledge strengths, highlight potential growth, and share appreciation openly.

4. Rinse and Repeat for at least 21 Days: Changes like these don't usually happen overnight, but you might notice the shift begins immediately. Keep at it.

Real-World Application

A senior executive received a resignation letter from the lead accountant at the beginning of tax season. After seven great years, the resignation came as a surprise to everyone and created quite a crunch for this executive. As you can imagine, there was hurt and disappointment, confusion, and frustration. Things could have ended badly, as they often do when someone resigns.

The executive realized they didn't want to end their relationship with this friend and colleague, so they chose to focus on the positives from the past 7 years. They wrote notes of gratitude, even gave meaningful gifts. Through gratitude, what could have gotten hostile and ugly remained peaceful and professional. The relationship was saved, and the transition navigated more easily.

Invitation to Action

This week, choose a challenging situation to deploy gratitude within. Set the intention to deploy gratitude in this area consistently for the next 21 days.

To keep this practice top of mind, create a tangible reminder—a sticky note, a daily alarm on your phone, or a personal mantra—that jogs your memory and reinforces your commitment each day.

Notice how deploying gratitude shifts your perspective and impacts those around you. What beauty or blessing do you discover amidst the struggle?

After experiencing this shift, you'll be ready to send gratitude on another mission, further expanding its positive impact.

Share your experience with the #GratitudeMoves and inspire others to transform obstacles into opportunities. Feel free to send me a DM as I love celebrating successes like these.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Gratitude Moves: Energizing Your Workplace with Hope and Thriving

Have you ever watched a master chef at work? They don’t just cook—they slice, dice, sauté, simmer, and flame. Each technique serves a specific purpose, transforming raw ingredients into culinary magic.

Gratitude works the same way. It’s not just one note, but a repertoire of moves that can transform your workplace when skillfully applied. Yet most of us use gratitude like a one-size-fits-all solution, missing its full potential.

Gratitude Mastery

Inspired by Daniel Pink's definition of mastery—getting better and better at something that truly matters—you’re invited on this journey to achieve Gratitude Mastery. Gratitude isn't a one-size-fits-all solution; it’s rich and robust, with the power to transform through a diverse set of strategies. It's not just about mastering one skill; it's about building a range of gratitude practices to effectively navigate your professional environment.

Why Gratitude Moves

In the hustle and bustle of daily work life, it’s easy to overlook the profound impact that intentional gratitude can have. By embracing Gratitude Moves, you’ll learn to apply different techniques, much like a master chef refining their art, to foster resilience, enhance team cohesion, and elevate your professional environment.

The Gratitude Moves Framework™

Our Gratitude Moves™ framework consists of eight distinct strategies, each with its own unique application:

1. Deploy Gratitude: Assign gratitude to a mission for specific outcomes. (H/T to: Markku Wilenius)

2. Lean Into Gratitude: Choose appreciation over skepticism.

3. Activate Gratitude: Awaken your gratitude awareness.

4. Harness Gratitude: Channel gratitude's power.

5. Amplify Gratitude: Increase gratitude’s impact across your team.

6. Leverage Gratitude: Utilize appreciation to effect change.

7. Anchor in Gratitude: Stabilize during turbulent times.

8. Cultivate Gratitude: Grow appreciation intentionally.

What to Expect from the Series

Over the next few weeks, you’ll dive deep into each Gratitude Move, exploring:

• When to Use: Identifying the right moments to apply each gratitude move (strategy).

• How to Apply: Practical steps to implement each move effectively.

• Real-World Examples: Stories and case studies that illustrate the impact of these moves in action.

By the end of the series, you’ll have a comprehensive toolkit to make gratitude a powerful ally in your professional journey, helping you achieve mastery in creating an environment where hope grows and people thrive.

Join the Movement

Get ready to embark on this journey of intentional gratitude. Transform your workplace into an environment where everyone feels valued, connections deepen, and appreciation truly matters.

Stay tuned for our first Gratitude Move, Deploy Gratitude, where you’ll explore how to strategically assign gratitude missions to achieve specific goals.

I’d love to hear from you:

• What Gratitude Moves™ have you already been using in your workplace? Share your story by posting a comment or sending me a DM. Who knows, I might highlight it in the series?

• Which Gratitude Move are you most excited to explore or implement?

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below or connect directly. Let’s inspire each other to create more hopeful, resilient, and connected workplaces.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

"AND YET": Embracing the Power of Gratitude Amidst Uncertainty

Have you ever had one of those days when everything that could go wrong, did go wrong? Days when the weight of the world feels especially heavy, and you're left wondering how to navigate through it all. And yet, in the midst of it, a surprising moment of clarity reveals a different story.

As I sat down to write, I realized that today marks the five-year anniversary of the COVID-19 pandemic. WOW! Reflecting on the past years, we've all weathered profound changes, faced unexpected challenges, and, for many, experienced deep loss. Each of us carries stories from this collective journey.

And then, 2025 has started with its share of upheaval. From global uncertainties to personal trials, it's been a tumultuous ride. Health scares, financial stresses, job upheavals, relationship crises—it all adds up. Many of us are feeling the strain.

AND YET!

Recently, I've connected with these two simple words—AND YET—on a much deeper level, linking them profoundly to life and gratitude.

I vividly remember the moment it crystallized for me. It was Thursday, February 27, just after 2:00 PM—a typical day that took an unexpected turn. While running an errand, another car suddenly turned left in front of me, leading to an unavoidable accident.

In the whirlwind and jolt of the crash, I found myself immersed in chaos and confusion. While waiting for the police, I looked up and noticed the beautiful sky. That moment was a wonderful reframing.

Sure, I was shaken up and still trembling, as was the other driver. But thankfully, there were no life-threatening injuries. No one was yelling or placing blame—just relief that it wasn't worse.

Despite the turmoil, "AND YET" lingered. It echoed in my mind, reminding me that life is good… even on a bad day.

Gratitude-Fueled Shifts

Have you ever heard yourself say something that you didn't know you knew? About five years ago, in a conversation about gratitude during the tough times of COVID,, I heard myself answer a question with,

Gratitude isn't a cure-all, but it's one powerful cope-all.

Let's be honest about some of the things that have been amplified over the past five years:

• Life can get hard. And yet, gratitude makes life a bit lighter.

• Life can feel overwhelming, and yet gratitude makes it less overwhelming.

• Not every day is perfect, and yet there's goodness to be found in each one.

• Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Gratitude doesn't prevent hardship from happening, but it can help us become better, not bitter, from those difficulties.

Despite life's challenges, gratitude can anchor us in hope and clarity, helping us navigate storms with resilience.

Inviting Others into the "AND YET" Conversation

A week ago today, I hosted the March Gratitude Encounter™ and called it the "AND YET" Edition. I invited everyone to explore the "AND YET" theme and share moments of gratitude during tough times. What emerged were profound insights and connections.

Here's what we discovered:

• Shared Understanding: We all recognized the universal experience of balancing uncertainties and the Power of Gratitude to help us cope.

• Moments of Realization: Many shared stories where "AND YET" moments illuminated unexpected positives and helped them embrace better outcomes.

• Shifted Perspective: Gratitude can change our perspective, allowing us to find positivity even in difficult situations.

• Collective Connection: Sharing these experiences fostered a sense of community, providing connection, comfort, and hope.

Your "AND YET" Practice

As you reflect on your own uncertainties, I invite you to find  your "AND YET" moments:

1. Begin with Acknowledgment: Recognize the challenges or chaos you're facing. There's no need to deny them.

2. Find Your "AND YET": Identify one good thing you can be grateful for despite the circumstances.

3. Express It: Share this gratitude with others or reflect personally to deepen its impact.

For example: "Work has been chaotic, and yet I'm grateful for the supportive community around me."

Let's Navigate Together

While your journey remains uncertain, embracing gratitude can transform your perspective and deepen your resilience. Anchor yourself in what truly matters and navigate this season with gratitude, grace, and an open heart.

Remember, even in life's storms, AND YET remains a powerful invitation—to find grace, to grow stronger, and to connect more deeply with one another.

Want to join us for the April Gratitude Encounter on Tuesday, April 8 at 12 noon ET? You can RSVP now.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

The Ripple Effect: How Gratitude Enhances Trust and Collaboration

In today's fractured and fragile workplaces, one force has the power to rebuild trust, spark collaboration, and transform entire organizational cultures.

There's something magnetic about gratitude—it creates waves of positive change that extend far beyond the initial expression of appreciation.

The Trust Crisis

At a time when workplace trust is in decline—only half of employees globally say they trust their employers (Edelman, 2023)—leaders are scrambling for ways to authentically rebuild connections. Many rely on traditional team-building exercises or incentive programs, but these often fall flat, leaving employees disengaged and skeptical.

But what if the solution lies in addressing a near-universal human need that leaders often overlook?

The Universal Need for Recognition

Every employee—from the C-suite to the frontline—shares the same fundamental desire: to feel seen, heard, valued, and appreciated for their contributions. Yet in fragmented, fast-paced workplaces, this basic human need is frequently neglected. The consequences are steep:

• Employees who feel undervalued are 50% more likely to disengage (Gallup, 2023).

• Teams with low psychological safety see a 40% drop in collaboration (Google’s Project Aristotle).

• Recognition-starved workplaces experience 2.6x higher turnover (Workhuman).

Don't get confused and think this is about grand gestures and formal programs. It's more fundamental than that. This is about YOU creating the intention and developing regular routines that foster genuine and abundant appreciation.

The Gratitude Advantage

Groundbreaking research by Adam Grant and Francesca Gino reveals that gratitude creates a "spillover effect," amplifying trust and collaboration. Expressing genuine appreciation:

• Boosts Prosocial Behavior: Recipients are 50% more likely to help colleagues (Grant & Gino, 2010).

• Deepens Trust: Teams with strong recognition practices report 31% higher trust in leadership (Harvard Business Review).

• Accelerates Innovation: Employees who feel valued are 3.2x more likelyto take creative risks (Adobe).

Real-World Ripples: Gratitude in Action

Consider Nick Boulas CHA, CFBE,CHT, a hospitality leader whose team faces the daily challenges of serving hundreds of guests. Five years ago, at the height of COVID-19, Nick was ready to throw in the towel and leave his chosen profession.

Instead, he personally leaned into gratitude and began intentionally weaving gratitude into their culture. As a result, his team has experienced a remarkable transformation.

Daily appreciation practices have energized the workplace, strengthened connections, and fostered a supportive environment among team members, even in tough times.

My friend Juan Carlos "JC" Gutierrez from Amazon Web Services (AWS) shows the value of consistent appreciation through his understanding of formal and informal recognition systems. I've witnessed firsthand how his approach creates a culture where team members naturally share credit and celebrate each other's contributions.

I've been inspired by the way colleagues openly recognize each other's efforts, fostering a positive cycle that strengthens team bonds and boosts results. Rarely have I witnessed people so freely acknowledging the contributions of their peers. It's genuinely refreshing.

These aren't isolated success stories. They represent what's possible when leaders make gratitude a cornerstone of their culture. The ripple effect is clear: when people feel genuinely appreciated, they are more likely to:

• Collaborate openly with colleagues

• Share credit generously

• Support team members proactively

• Contribute their best work consistently

Create Your Own Ripple Effect

To cultivate gratitude that resonates at a human level:

1. See the Unseen:

• Be the leader who knows your people and personalizes your recognition.

• Example: "Sam, I noticed you stayed late to help Maria troubleshoot that client issue last night—that’s the kind of teamwork that makes us unstoppable."

2. Create Feedback Loops:

• Institute weekly “What Went Right” reflections.

• Example: Start meetings with a 2-minute share of a peer’s helpful action and the impact it had.

3. Express Appreciation... Liberally:

• Write personal, handwritten notes celebrating specific contributions.

• Consistently spotlight team members' good work in meetings, emails, and company communications.

• Look for daily opportunities to say "thank you" with context about why their work matters.

The Choice Ahead

As Nick and JC's stories show, gratitude isn’t just an emotion—it’s a leadership strategy with measurable ROI.

When leaders like you commit to seeing, hearing, and valuing your people, you create a self-reinforcing cycle of trust and collaboration.

Start A Ripple NOW:

• Notice one unsung contribution this week and shine a spotlight on the person and their actions.

• Ask this in your next meeting: "What’s one thing a colleague did that made your work easier this week?"

• Share appreciation that is simple, sincere, and specific. It adds to the signifcance of your appreciation.

Need a catalyst to spark appreciation on your team? Let’s design a Gratitude Encounter™ tailored to your team’s needs. You can start the process here by answering two questions.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Science Behind the Superpower: How "Find, Remind, and Bind" Strengthens Teams

While many leaders and companies continue debating RTO policies and struggle with record-low engagement, some teams are discovering an unexpected superpower that bridges every divide—whether their members work from home, in offices, or across continents.

This superpower is gratitude, a deceptively simple yet profoundly transformative practice, backed by science.

The Connection Challenge in Teams

In the midst of "The Great Detachment," where employee engagement is at an 11-year low, and only 50% of U.S. employees feel they are thriving, it's clear that traditional approaches to team cohesion no longer suffice. Today's work environments, whether remote, hybrid, or in-person, need a new way to connect, and that's where gratitude comes in.

Unpacking the "Find, Remind, and Bind" Theory

Enter the "Find, Remind, and Bind" theory by psychologist Sara Algoe. This theory sheds light on how gratitude functions as a powerful social glue, enhancing relationships and building stronger connections within teams.

Let's break it down:

Find: Discovering New Relationships

Gratitude helps you find new, meaningful relationships by opening doors to connection when you express appreciation for actions or qualities.

Imagine a team member acknowledging a colleague's innovative idea during a meeting. This simple act of appreciation not only validates the individual but also lays the foundation for a stronger professional relationship.

Remind: Recognizing Existing Bonds

Gratitude reminds you of the positive relationships you already have, spotlighting the support and kindness that might otherwise go unnoticed in the hustle of daily life.

Think about the last time a colleague helped you navigate a tricky project. Taking a moment to express gratitude not only makes them feel appreciated but also reinforces the trust between you.

Bind: Strengthening Connections

Finally, gratitude helps bind you to others by deepening existing relationships, creating a sense of loyalty and commitment within the team.

When gratitude is a regular part of your team's culture, relationships transform from purely transactional to genuinely supportive.

Why This Matters for Your Team

Gratitude isn't just a nicety—it's a strategic tool that can boost productivity, enhance creativity, and reduce turnover.

Connected teams work more efficiently, and a supportive environment fosters innovation, improving job satisfaction and retention.

Real-Life Examples

Meet my friend, Wade Mitzel, CEO of the University of Louisville Physicians Group. I love the stories Wade shares in our conversations of practical ways he expresses gratitude and how he creates opportunities for other leaders to join in the sharing.

On a weekly basis, Wade takes time to express gratitude for people in their system who exemplify excellence in service and patient care. Sometimes these are experiences he witnesses firsthand. Other times the stories are shared with him. He takes time to write notes and express his personal appreciation and on behalf of the organization. It matters. People feel seen, heard, valued, and appreciated. Here’s a post Wade shared expressing gratitude and appreciation publicly.

Wade also hosts an amazing event called “Gratitude Plus One”. In these intimate gatherings, Wade invites a small group of leaders (about 7) who bring someone they are thankful for and want to acknowledge. But waith, there’s more. Those invited get to do the same. A small group of about 21 people gathered for an hour – a time where gratitude is shared, hearts are filled, and bonds are formed. Check out this amazing post Wade wrote about a recent Plus One Session.

I share these real-life stories in hopes you find a kernel of an idea that either affirms you for something you're currently doing, or inspires you to take action and run an experiment in your work and leadership.

Ways You Can Implement "Find, Remind, and Bind"

Ready to harness this superpower of gratitude in your own team? Here are some actionable steps:

1. Start Your Meetings with Gratitude

• Find: Encourage team members to acknowledge something new they've appreciated.

• Example: "I want to recognize Alex for jumping in to help with the client presentation on short notice."

2. Create a Gratitude Wall

• Remind: Set up a virtual or physical space where team members can post notes of appreciation.

• Example: Use a shared document or app where colleagues can share shout-outs.

3. Celebrate Milestones Together

• Bind: Acknowledge both big and small achievements collectively.

• Example: Host a virtual celebration for completing a project, highlighting everyone's contributions.

4. Lead by Example

• As a leader, model gratitude in your daily interactions.

• Example: Send personalized thank-you messages recognizing individual efforts.

Your Invitation to Action

Imagine a workplace where appreciation flows freely, connections are strong, and everyone feels valued. This isn't a distant dream—it's within your reach through the intentional practice of gratitude.

Take Your Next Step Now:

• Reflect: How can you incorporate "Find, Remind, and Bind" into your team's routine?

• Act: Choose one practical idea from this article and implement it this week.

• Connect: Share your experiences and observe the changes that unfold.

If you’d like support in bringing these practices to life, I'm here to help. Hosting a Gratitude Encounter™ Reset Session could be the catalyst your team needs to unlock deeper connection and collaboration.

Do you have a story to share about the impact of gratitude and appreciation at work? Please send it my way by reaching out to me with an email. I'm always eager to hear real-life applications and examples.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

A Super Power of Gratitude: Creating Connections in a Disconnected World

Have you ever experienced strangers transforming into friends in just an hour?

I have. Not just once, but hundreds of times over the past five years. And here's what's fascinating—it happens through the intentional practice of gratitude. Specifically, a shared experience of expressing gratitude.

The Current Reality

Around the world, people are experiencing a pervasive sense of disconnection, feeling isolated and alienated in various aspects of life. This is especially pronounced in workplaces, where the consequences ripple through entire organizations.

You might be witnessing this right where you work or within the teams you lead. The emotional and operational toll is significant, impacting everything from productivity to innovation to retention.

A Pattern of Connection

Through facilitating over 150 Gratitude Encounters™ in almost five years, I've consistently observed something remarkable: gratitude's unique power to connect people quickly and deeply.

I saw it and heard connection referenced again just yesterday. A group of us who had just completed "30 Days IN the Power of Gratitude" were together for a celebration session. I asked, "What do you choose to celebrate now from our journey?"

I choose to celebrate connection in whatever form and expression it takes. - Dan Moyle 🎤

In a moment, it hit me. This exact mix of people had never shared a conversation before, yet there we were—experiencing a profound bond created by gratitude. Feeling a deep sense of authentic connection.

The Workplace Amplifier

Here's where it gets even more interesting: When the people gathering aren't strangers, but co-workers who already share commonalities, the impact multiplies. The connections and conversations go further, faster. There's an existing foundation of shared experiences and goals that gratitude builds upon, leading several participants to describe a Gratitude Encounter™ as "the best team-building EVER!"

There's More to the Story

Actually, there's research and data that substantiate the stories of our personal experiences. Don't you love when data confirms something you stumbled upon "in the wild"?

I knew I couldn't be the only one noticing this. I started digging into the research. There's a growing body of research exploring the power of gratitude and how shared experiences of gratitude create and strengthen connection.

Gratitude isn't just feel-good philosophy, it's a game-changer!

Let me whet your appetite with a few numbers. We'll dig into more in the coming editions.

• Shared experiences and expressions of gratitude increase social connection by 20%

• Gratitude increases belonging -- one study shows a 45% increase.

• Group gratitude practices reduced depression...one study documented 35%.

• Shared experiences of gratitude increase team cohesion...up to 28%. -- What team leader doesn't want that?

• Our own study shows hope increases an average of 25% in the course of an hour!

Best of All, Gratitude Creates a Ripple Effect

Gratitude is a gift that keeps on giving. What starts in a single session sparks lasting change. Here are a few ways how that works:

• Teams report improved collaboration

• Communication becomes more open and authentic

• Trust levels increase

• Innovation flows more freely

• Workplace satisfaction rises

Your Team's Gratitude Journey

Let me ask... and invite you to share stories about your team's Gratitude Journey. Plenty of you are already sharing gratitude in powerful ways. I'll collect and catalogue a few of those to share (with permission) in the coming weeks.

Cambridge Air Solutions includes gratitude moment in their daily standup...you read that right. Every day, the 100+ employees gather in-person and online for a brief meeting. The meetings always includes gratitude. It's invited and welcomed, but never coerced. It's amazing to behold...and you can join in and watch.

• What gratitude practices currently exist in your workplace?

• How do team members acknowledge and appreciate each other?

• Where do you see opportunities for deeper connection?

Looking Ahead

In the coming weeks, we'll explore:

• The science behind gratitude's connecting power

• What the data show about the power of gratitude

• Practical implementation strategies for teams

• Stories of transformation from real teams

Taking Your Next Step

If your team is experiencing disconnection now—don't delay. Take Action Now!

Allowing disconnection to continue is costly.

If you need help, contact me. I'll meet with you. I'd love to host a Gratitude Encounter Reset Session for your team.

Let's talk… soon...TODAY! You can book a call here. You can snag one of the spots currently available for teams ready to transform challenge into opportunity.

Remember: In an era where disconnection feels rampant, gratitude offers a bridge back to each other. It's not just a nice-to-have practice; it's a strategic approach to building stronger, more connected teams.

The Power of Gratitude IN the Here and Now

In the depths of life's valleys, many people discover something extraordinary: gratitude is not a distant goal, but a present power.

Last Tuesday, during our Gratitude Encounter™ Reset Session, I posed a simple question: "Why is it important that YOU chose to be here today?" The responses were astounding and beautifully reflected our collective longing for kindness, hope, and connection:

• "I want to be soft and kind again."

• "I need to feel connected to hope."

• "Need to be lifted. Feeling heavy."

• "To engage in positivity. Life has so many negativities around us, and I feel the need to add more positivity into my life and enrich others."

These sentiments sparked rich conversations, underlining the transformative power of gratitude, even when life is challenging.

Dispelling the "Will Be When" Myth

Have you ever fallen into the trap of thinking, "I'll be grateful when…"

• Career Advancement: "I'll be grateful when I land that promotion and finally get recognized for my hard work."

• Life Milestones: "I'll feel grateful when I've paid off all my debts and have financial freedom."

• Personal Achievement: "I'll appreciate myself when I complete that marathon and prove that I can push beyond my limits."

But gratitude isn't a reward reserved for reaching a future milestone. It's an attitude you cultivate in the here and now.

As my new friend, Stephan Nery insightfully shared last week in a post,

"The essence of gratitude is often associated with abundance. But when faced with loss, grief, or despair, gratitude shifts from being a reaction to positive circumstances to a deliberate, even radical, act of consciousness. Can you still be grateful when you feel you're losing everything?"

That's powerful! That's gratitude IN action.

There is a NOW element to gratitude that many people miss...I hope YOU seize gratitude in the now...and savor it later too when your hopes, dreams, and aspirations are realized. You don't have to defer gratitude another moment. You can find something to be grateful for now!

Why Gratitude Matters Now... to YOU

Back to a version of the question I asked the group last week,

Why is it important that YOU choose gratitude NOW?

I invite you to share your response in a comment below..or DM me.

It's my hope that you discover practicing gratitude in the present moment shifts it from being merely a reaction to being a transformative power within you.

Here are some benefits I've witnessed...and enjoyed:

• Hope Grows: Even amidst difficulty and despair, gratitude nurtures hope by highlighting at least one good thing.

• Connection Deepens: There is something magical about sharing gratitude in community. It becomes a bridge in times of isolation.

• Agency Strengthens: Gratitude boosts your sense of possibility and motivates you to take action with clear intent.

Take Action Now

If your team is stalled, stuck, or struggling, grab one of four openings I have for a Gratitude Encounter Reset Session this month! It's a game-changer.

If you've got questions about how this will work for your team, schedule a 15-minute call and we'll explore it.

Gratitude isn't a future destination. It's a journey we choose daily.

I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Rediscovering Hope, Connection, and Agency in 2025

As February begins, many people are reflecting on a January that didn't meet expectations. We had hoped for a fresh start. Instead, we've faced exceptional challenges—terroristic acts, apocalyptic fires, political unrest, and two devastating aviation disasters mere days apart. These events have left a significant impact on personal well-being and team dynamics.

By the end of the month, I noticed that hope, connection, and agency had faded for many, impacting their teams significantly.

The Symbiotic Trio

For both individuals and teams to thrive, hope, connection, and agency must be intertwined:

• Hope inspires us to envision better days and fuels persistence.

• Connection provides the bonds and support that motivate us to move forward.

• Agency empowers us to transform visions into reality and inspires us to take action, build resilience and confidence.

When any element falters, the ripple effect moves beyond the personal realm — and takes an impact on the collective.

Understanding the Ripple Effects

The start of 2025 has tested these elements at a deep level across numerous organizations. Have hope, connection, or agency dipped or slipped on your team in January?

If so, here's what that might look like on your team:

• Hope diminishes, leading to disengagement and decreased motivation.

• Connection weakens, resulting in siloed working and less collaboration.

• Agency reduces, creating a sense of being stuck or powerless.

Suddenly, people feel paralyzed, with fear, worry, and anxiety creeping in. Instead of moving forward, they are retreating.

Growing through Gratitude

Here's the empowering news: Hope, connection, and agency all flourish in the soil of gratitude.

Since the early days of the pandemic, we've been designing and hosting dynamic interactive events known as Gratitude Encounters™. These sessions have proven highly effective at:

• Cultivating Hope: Sharing of small wins and future visions keeps optimism alive.

• Strengthening Connection: Open dialogue and authentic sharing foster deeper bonds.

• Empowering Agency: Skill development and autonomy in projects restore a sense of ownership.

Introducing the 2025 Great Gratitude Reset

In response to the challenges so many teams are feeling and facing, we've crafted a special Gratitude Encounter known as the 2025 Gratitude Reset Session. It's designed specifically for teams, to help you and your team rekindle hope, fortify connections, and activate agency.

We provide ready-made or customized sessions that can seamlessly integrate into your team's next gathering, either by adapting an existing meeting or organizing a special event. We deliver these online, in-person, or hybrid sessions. This 60-minute session is a game-changer!

Taking Action

It's time to move forward with purpose rather than continue feeling stuck. Don’t let your team languish when a gratitude-powered reset could be the transformative catalyst you need.

To learn how a 2025 Gratitude Reset Session can benefit your team, schedule a call or book your session directly. Let’s rekindle the hope, connection, and agency within your team, setting a positive trajectory for the months to come.

Together, through gratitude, we can rise above challenges and build a resilient, thriving community.

The Intersection of Gratitude and Emotional Intelligence: A Powerful Connection

Ever known a leader who seems to respond perfectly in challenging situations while others react impulsively?

The secret lies in what Viktor Frankl called "the space between stimulus and response." This space—and how we use it—makes all the difference in leadership effectiveness.

Consider this: 90% of top performers demonstrate high emotional intelligence (Niagara Institute). This isn't a coincidence. It's about their ability to recognize and effectively navigate the space between what happens to them and how they respond.

It Starts with Awareness

The journey to Emotional Intelligence as a leader begins with simply recognizing that this space exists. In every interaction, every challenge, and every triumph, there's a moment—however brief—where a choice is possible. You do not have to respond the way you've responded in the past when you were triggered. Launching into a tirade might be what's been modeled or tolerated in your organization.

But YOU have a choice. Recognizing there is a space...and you have a choice is the first step towards emotionally intelligent leadership.

Growing the Space

Recognition isn't enough. The real power comes in growing that space. The most effective tool for expanding it—especially in real-time situations—is accessing the Power of the Pause.

This conscious act of pausing, even if only for a moment, widens the gap between stimulus and response.

Imagine being in a tense meeting when someone challenges your proposal. Your past automatic reaction might be defensiveness. But what if, in that crucial moment, you could pause—take a breath to collect your thoughts?

This simple act transforms the space, enabling a more deliberate and thoughtful response.

By pausing, reactions turn into responses. It provides the opportunity to choose actions thoughtfully and intentionally, aligning them with values and long-term goals. With practice, this pause becomes the gateway to expanding emotional intelligence and improving leadership effectiveness.

Building the Gratitude Bridge

Gratitude isn't just about being thankful—it's a powerful tool for transformation. After pausing, the key is to take an additional step: notice something good, admirable, or valuable about the person or situation involved.

This moment of gratitude serves as a bridge, filling the space between stimulus and response.

By doing so, the space isn't just expanded; it's transformed. Moving from reaction to intentional response becomes possible. Instead of defensiveness, there might be genuine appreciation for the different perspective, leading to better solutions and stronger relationships.

When the space is consciously filled with gratitude, new possibilities open—aligning actions with values and long-term goals. This bridging act is a testament to both emotional intelligence and your capacity for growth.

Putting It Into Practice

This week, embrace the power of the pause. Notice moments where the space between stimulus and response presents itself:

• During a challenging conversation

• In response to an unexpected email

• When someone cuts you off in traffic

Recognize the space. Then, pause. Breathe. Reflect. Use gratitude as the tool to fill fill the gap.

I hope you'll share your experiences and insights in the comments. After all, gratitude is better together.

Two Ways to Deepen Your Practice

1. Download our Newest Resource. Ready to explore this topic further? Download the free guide: "Gratitude In Action: Bridging the Emotional Intelligence Gap." This comprehensive resource offers a practical roadmap for integrating gratitude into leadership styles and daily interactions. Grab your copy HERE.

2. Join the Grateful Leaders, Thriving Teams Masterclass. Want to put these concepts into practice alongside other leaders? Join the Grateful Leaders, Thriving Teams Masterclass. Our next 60-minute session is on Thursday, February 13, 2025, at 12 noon ET. Secure your seat now.

Remember: Between stimulus and response lies the freedom to choose a path that leads to growth and meaningful connection. Combining the PAUSE with GRATITUDE help you steward your leadership wisely and creates freedom.

I'm looking forward to exploring these principles together and hearing about your journey in growing that crucial space. I hope YOU know I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!

Is Gratitude Your Occasional Garnish or Daily Essential Ingredient?

Think about your favorite recipe— the one that never fails to satisfy. Is your mouth watering as you imagine the succulent flavors stimulating your taste buds?

What if you took out the essential spices from a recipe and only used them as a garnish?

Not quite the same, is it?

Unfortunately, this reflects the mindset of many leaders towards gratitude. They sprinkle it on special occasions, add a dash during celebrations, or garnish a moment with a quick "thanks."

While there's nothing inherently wrong with this approach, it severely limits gratitude's transformative potential.

The Difference Between Garnish and Essential Ingredient

When gratitude is merely a garnish:

• It's an afterthought.

• It shows up mainly in good times.

• Its impact is fleeting.

• It feels optional.

When gratitude becomes essential:

• It shapes your perspective from the start.

• It's present in both challenges and triumphs.

• Its influence is lasting.

• It becomes part of who you are.

Why This Matters Now

In the unpredictable world we inhabit, depending on gratitude only sometimes makes you prone to negative emotions, stress, and feeling disconnected. To truly tap into its potential, gratitude needs to be woven into the fabric of your daily life.

Here's why it matters:

1. Gratitude Builds Resilience. When gratitude is essential, it becomes your anchor amid life's storms. It trains your mind to focus on abundance rather than scarcity, helping you bounce back from setbacks with newfound strength.

2. Gratitude Strengthens Relationships. Regular expressions of gratitude deepen your connections. It's not just about saying "thank you" but about showing appreciation and recognizing the value people bring into your life. This builds trust and fosters deeper, more meaningful relationships.

3. Gratitude Enhances Well-being. Studies show that gratitude practiced regularly can reduce stress, improve sleep, and enhance overall mental health. When gratitude is fundamental, these benefits become sustainable and enduring.

How to Infuse Gratitude into Everything You Do

Here are some practical steps to transform gratitude from a garnish to an essential ingredient in your daily life:

1. Cultivate a Gratitude Ritual. Start each day by listing three things you're genuinely grateful for. Let this be your foundation for a gratitude mindset as the day unfolds.

2. Express Gratitude in Daily Interactions. Imagine expressing sincere gratitude daily in your correspondence, conversations, and meetings. Recognizing contributions and giving specific praise can improve workplace dynamics and foster better relationships, creating a more positive and collaborative environment. The impact of that would be… well, it's transformational.

3. Infuse Gratitude into Your Daily Tasks. Instead of adding gratitude as one more task to do, imagine integrating gratitude into the way you perform your regular activities. Whether it's during meetings, emails, or routine chores, let gratitude guide your approach. Need help? Join our next session of the 21-Day Gratitude Infusion Journey. Better yet, contact me to host one for your team or company. It's transformational in impact.

4. Express Authentic Gratitude. Go beyond the surface with your thank yous. Be specific about what someone did for you and how it made a difference. Make appreciation an integral part of your communication.

5. Join a Gratitude Community. Join me in the I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU Circle on the Gratitude Plus app. This is an app-based community where we share gratitude with others. Something amazing happens when you share gratitude with others. You can join for free. Here's the link, and the code for the IGFY Circle is L1FCQ9. You can also create your own circle for sharing gratitude with others. The Gratitude Plus app is a wonderful tool designed to help you build and maintain a consistent gratitude practice. It combines mental health tools with community support, helping you reflect on your day and strengthen connections with others.

Transformative Impact Awaits

The moment you shift gratitude from garnish to essential, you unleash its fullest potential to enrich your life. It's not about ignoring life's difficulties but equipping yourself with a lens to see beyond them.

So, ask yourself: Is gratitude your occasional garnish, or are you ready to make it your daily essential ingredient? The answer can lead to profound transformation.

Here's to embracing gratitude in everything you create and experience. Let’s start today.

I'm grateful for you.