Science Behind the Superpower: How "Find, Remind, and Bind" Strengthens Teams
While many leaders and companies continue debating RTO policies and struggle with record-low engagement, some teams are discovering an unexpected superpower that bridges every divide—whether their members work from home, in offices, or across continents.
This superpower is gratitude, a deceptively simple yet profoundly transformative practice, backed by science.
The Connection Challenge in Teams
In the midst of "The Great Detachment," where employee engagement is at an 11-year low, and only 50% of U.S. employees feel they are thriving, it's clear that traditional approaches to team cohesion no longer suffice. Today's work environments, whether remote, hybrid, or in-person, need a new way to connect, and that's where gratitude comes in.
Unpacking the "Find, Remind, and Bind" Theory
Enter the "Find, Remind, and Bind" theory by psychologist Sara Algoe. This theory sheds light on how gratitude functions as a powerful social glue, enhancing relationships and building stronger connections within teams.
Let's break it down:
Find: Discovering New Relationships
Gratitude helps you find new, meaningful relationships by opening doors to connection when you express appreciation for actions or qualities.
Imagine a team member acknowledging a colleague's innovative idea during a meeting. This simple act of appreciation not only validates the individual but also lays the foundation for a stronger professional relationship.
Remind: Recognizing Existing Bonds
Gratitude reminds you of the positive relationships you already have, spotlighting the support and kindness that might otherwise go unnoticed in the hustle of daily life.
Think about the last time a colleague helped you navigate a tricky project. Taking a moment to express gratitude not only makes them feel appreciated but also reinforces the trust between you.
Bind: Strengthening Connections
Finally, gratitude helps bind you to others by deepening existing relationships, creating a sense of loyalty and commitment within the team.
When gratitude is a regular part of your team's culture, relationships transform from purely transactional to genuinely supportive.
Why This Matters for Your Team
Gratitude isn't just a nicety—it's a strategic tool that can boost productivity, enhance creativity, and reduce turnover.
Connected teams work more efficiently, and a supportive environment fosters innovation, improving job satisfaction and retention.
Real-Life Examples
Meet my friend, Wade Mitzel, CEO of the University of Louisville Physicians Group. I love the stories Wade shares in our conversations of practical ways he expresses gratitude and how he creates opportunities for other leaders to join in the sharing.
On a weekly basis, Wade takes time to express gratitude for people in their system who exemplify excellence in service and patient care. Sometimes these are experiences he witnesses firsthand. Other times the stories are shared with him. He takes time to write notes and express his personal appreciation and on behalf of the organization. It matters. People feel seen, heard, valued, and appreciated. Here’s a post Wade shared expressing gratitude and appreciation publicly.
Wade also hosts an amazing event called “Gratitude Plus One”. In these intimate gatherings, Wade invites a small group of leaders (about 7) who bring someone they are thankful for and want to acknowledge. But waith, there’s more. Those invited get to do the same. A small group of about 21 people gathered for an hour – a time where gratitude is shared, hearts are filled, and bonds are formed. Check out this amazing post Wade wrote about a recent Plus One Session.
I share these real-life stories in hopes you find a kernel of an idea that either affirms you for something you're currently doing, or inspires you to take action and run an experiment in your work and leadership.
Ways You Can Implement "Find, Remind, and Bind"
Ready to harness this superpower of gratitude in your own team? Here are some actionable steps:
1. Start Your Meetings with Gratitude
Find: Encourage team members to acknowledge something new they've appreciated.
Example: "I want to recognize Alex for jumping in to help with the client presentation on short notice."
2. Create a Gratitude Wall
Remind: Set up a virtual or physical space where team members can post notes of appreciation.
Example: Use a shared document or app where colleagues can share shout-outs.
3. Celebrate Milestones Together
Bind: Acknowledge both big and small achievements collectively.
Example: Host a virtual celebration for completing a project, highlighting everyone's contributions.
4. Lead by Example
As a leader, model gratitude in your daily interactions.
Example: Send personalized thank-you messages recognizing individual efforts.
Your Invitation to Action
Imagine a workplace where appreciation flows freely, connections are strong, and everyone feels valued. This isn't a distant dream—it's within your reach through the intentional practice of gratitude.
Take Your Next Step Now:
Reflect: How can you incorporate "Find, Remind, and Bind" into your team's routine?
Act: Choose one practical idea from this article and implement it this week.
Connect: Share your experiences and observe the changes that unfold.
If you’d like support in bringing these practices to life, I'm here to help. Hosting a Gratitude Encounter™ Reset Session could be the catalyst your team needs to unlock deeper connection and collaboration.
Do you have a story to share about the impact of gratitude and appreciation at work? Please send it my way by reaching out to me with an email. I'm always eager to hear real-life applications and examples.
I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!